it wasn't expected, it was definitely a surprise, and when he showed up on my metaphorical doorstep i didn't think much of him at first, to be honest. but as the weeks went on i slowly realized that there was indeed something different about this guy, something i could not let go.
so i didn't.
two years later, i'm still holding on.
i have to say, there is absolutely nothing better than a guy who can make you laugh. nothing. that's surely a sign that he's a keeper. and then, if a guy wants to be completely and totally 100% honest with you, that means he wants to make this last. don't turn that down. you won't get another relationship like that again. and if a guy defends your honour each and every single time, that's yet another good omen.
people always tell me how lucky i am, and i am, and how did i manage to find him, i don't know, we just met at work is all, and how do i make it last, and my answer to that has always been: be honest. be 100% honest. and expect the same. that is the only way to make a relationship work.
people always pout and cry and sniffle that they can't find someone, and i say, well you know what, i had the exact same problem. for almost nineteen years, i did. i kept quasi-dating these assholes who didn't give a shit about me and i kept whining and saying the same thing, oh i'll never find true love, oh there's nobody for me, i'm never getting married, blah blah blah. then it finally happenened.
the point is to wait. the point is to never settle for anything less of perfect. the point is to just keep holding on, keep trying to make things work, and then eventually, one day, the jigsaw puzzle pieces will fall magically into place and you'll go "wow, all right before my eyes!"
and when they nurse you back to health, when they hold you when half your face doesn't work, when they buy you dinner no questions asked day after day after day, when they fondle you in public nonchalantly as if nothing had happened, you'll still be in awe, but a more trusting, just-happy-you-have-it, type of awe.
in conclusion, i love you dom. happy second year anniversary.
